I remember my very first job interview, I didn’t even have my Grad degree in my hands yet and I was called for an interview. This was 7 years ago and I can’t remember how and at what point did I apply for that job. I was 3 years into my marriage at that time, studying, living in a hostel while being married to a guy who lived in a city far away!
Coming back to the interview, which was in another city to that of my university but close by, the firm’s big name itself was a big thing for me. So after answering some technical questions pertaining to my field of study, the Production manager gave a go ahead to the HR manager to hire me. At this point I told the Manager that I am from another city and I will have to shift to this city, so should I go ahead with the shifting process. He gave me a green signal. As I came to the HR area where the manager took my personal details, he came to know that I am married. So I saw the mood shift. I was then made aware that they do not hire fresher who are married. But since the manager has given a go ahead , we will look into your case.
The sense of accomplishment and pride was intense as I was among the few who landed a job without even getting a degree in their hands. And then I was so naive that I didn’t even bother to wait for the offer letter and made my husband to move because …. well I was stupid. And then came the bomb. The HR manager stopped replying to me, stopped receiving my calls. When we had all moved and shifted to this new city, it turned out I didn’t even have a job. why? Because I was married. For some people this is a distraction, for them it is the indication that the person will not be able to give his 100%.
Why? why should it be a weakness?
For me its my strength . It is about feeling stable, responsible and more content in your personal life. Which I am sure the single ladies can also feel the same way but being married shouldn’t be seen as your weakness. Yes I am inflexible about staying late in office because I have a family to attend to, but staying late doesn’t mean you are doing extra work. It just shows you are unable to work efficiently to finish your stuff within the work hours.
Have you ever come across such situation where you had to regret being married? ha ha No I didn’t mean to say that what I wanted to ask was has there been a situation where a job was declined to you because you were married?